As a coach, I often hear some very mixed messages from clients.
People tell me they want drastic results – a lean, toned physique, abs showing, dropping the last stubborn 4-7kg. But in the same breath, they also tell me they want “balance” – a couple of meals out each week, a few glasses of wine, a lifestyle that feels enjoyable and not restrictive.
Here’s the reality: most of the time, the results they want will only come with precision, dedication, some sacrifice, and a whole lot of hard work. And no, this doesn’t mean never enjoying yourself, but it does mean being very clear on what trade-offs you’re willing to make.
Now, let’s clarify something – if you’re overweight or obese, the initial fat loss can feel “easy” in the sense that simply making better choices, eating less processed food, and moving more will likely lead to noticeable progress. But that’s not who I’m talking about here.
I’m talking about those already in relatively good shape – busy mums, professionals, people who are active but just want to shed those last few kilos.
This part?
This is where the real challenge begins.
Why?
Because when you’re already leaner, your body fights harder to hold on to fat.
Your metabolism has likely adapted to your habits, meaning the changes needed to push past that plateau are much more precise. The margin for error gets smaller. What worked before – like cutting out snacks or adding a few extra workouts – might not be enough.
The stricter you need to be, the more it tests your true priorities.
This is where realistic expectations come in.
- What do you really want?
- Is the result you desire actually achievable with the lifestyle you want to maintain?
- Have you already tried certain approaches, and if so, were they sustainable long-term?
A common one I hear is, “When I was in my 20s, I did [insert extreme diet here] and lost 10kg. But now I’m 39 and it’s just not working.”
Well… duh.
Your body has changed.
Your metabolism, hormones, daily activity levels, stress, and sleep patterns are all different.
And let’s be real – so are your priorities.
Maybe back then, you had more time, fewer responsibilities, and fewer social commitments.
So instead of chasing what worked decades ago, ask yourself:
What can I realistically do now?
What habits can I sustain?
Because consistency beats intensity every time. If the answer is that you’re not willing to give up your wine nights or spontaneous brunches, that’s totally fine – but your expectations should match your effort.
You don’t have to go all-in if that’s not what you truly want.
But if you do want that next-level result, it will require next-level commitment.
And that’s not a bad thing – it’s just a choice.
One only you can make.
